Infants Remembered In Silence, Inc.
218 Third Ave. NW
Faribault, MN 55021
218 Third Ave. NW
Faribault, MN 55021
(507) 334-4748
support@irisremembers.com
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| Grief is Overwhelming ~ A Letter To Family and Friends |
| Dear Family and Friends,
Someone I love has died. I not only mourn their death, but mourn who I was with them and all that would have been. Through their death, part of me and the world I knew also died. Please be patient with me as I work through all my losses: Love of my love one Loss of my ability to touch, to hear, to see, to smell them (sensory loss) Loss of friends and family because they’re afraid of my pain Loss of my connections with life (other people’s lives go in, mine has stopped) Loss of family structure as I have known it Loss of my loved one’s presence on holiday and special occasions Loss in terms of who does what tasks – reorganization Loss of financial stability Loss of meaning in my life Loss of motivation Loss of caring – about anything Loss of control and the illusion of having control Loss of concentration Loss of ability to cope Loss of ability to make decisions – even minor ones Loss of energy – grief is exhausting Loss of health – including reduced resistance to infections – grief is stressful Loss of sleep and/or loss of normal sleep patterns Loss of normal eating patterns (eating too much or too little) Loss of ability to function as I used to Loss of emotional stability Loss of being dependent on someone Loss of old values – no new values to replace them yet Loss due to change in priorities Loss of feelings of safety for myself and my family Loss of dreams of the future Loss of feeling dependable Loss of ability to give Loss of feeling able to participate in life Loss of feeling alive Loss of feelings of pleasure or enjoyment of anything Loss of ability to laugh Loss of self-esteem Loss of trust in self and others Loss of self identity – who I am now? Loss of feeling of fairness and justice in my world (why me?) Loss of faith in God Grief is work. Please help me to be patient and gentle with myself as I begin my healing process I need you to be part of my healing. |